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I had spagetti tonight and it went down good. I made it with macaroni noodes instead of spagetti because they are smaller. I am full and I feel a sort of pressure in my chest so I am full, maybe fuller than I should be but I did stop when I felt that. I think chicken is very hard on the system. Meat is kinda hard I think. Thank you all for responding. I definatly need the help of experts out there, cause this is all new to me. Also I found that I can still eat my salads, thank goodness, they go down well too. YAHOO. I will figure it out, I know it takes time. It is kinda scarry at first.

Oh my god, this is so crazy.The serious pain I have felt. Reality just slapped me in the face. I got back in solids and what extreme pain I have had to live through. I think I know what it is now. I take big bites. Yes I chew them up but they are big, so that doesn't matter when it goes down. It hurts like hell. Where did I learn to eat this way. I am going to have to learn all over again and my head is not getting it until the pain comes. I went back on slim fast today. I was freaking hungry. But I had a peice of chicken and it did not go well. I wonder how long it will take me to learn to do this right. I always have taken big bites. I even take big drinks. I feel so stupid. I hope I didnt hurt anything. I am so nervous now. I have never felt that kind of pain. It is like getting a big huge pill stuck. How terrible. It kinda makes me sad, what if it is always like this. I can't take it. For now on, I am going to cut everying up really small and eat it that way. No more big bites and we will see how it goes but for today, since it hurt. I am having my slim fast. Wow, I never thought it would be like this. I guess the peices are going to have to be really small. I didnt really understand that. DAH! I get it now. PAIN!

Julie are you still going to help plan the get together? I dont see people doing the poll, or has that changed? What exactly is the plan with this. Dont bail out now, we need you. I understand your need for balance, trust me but I would hate to not see you on here or to be able to keep in touch. Will you be checking in daily?

We can have rice? I remember reading somewhere that they said no rice. I will check my stuff again. I bet it was the skin that did it. I wont eat skin ever again, it hurt. I am trying to eat healthy but I think the excitement of being able to eat took over for a minute. I can't wait to go to the store again and get some lettuce and vegies. I went and got some corn on the cob today, I haven't had that in years. I can't wait. It is nice to have only small meals. I think we are doing ok so far. I will be more careful. Thanks for responding.

Am I not chewing enough? It seems like I chew the hell out of it but I still feel this pain as it goes down. I have to stop in my tracks, then I am not sure if I should start again. I realize it has only been two days of eating. But is this normal? Maybe I am just nervous, but I had some chicken maybe it was the skin. I am ok now but it hurt for about 3 seconds and I thought something was stuck there for a minute so I drank something and that can right back up. Yuck. I wont do that again. I guess I need to learn how to eat. Maybe I am eating too fast. I dont think I am but I think I may be doing something wrong. Any advise would be helpful. Thanks

Wow, that is, wow. I know my marriage is not that great. but I will not live in a marriage where I can not express how I feel or even communicate. At that point, I am outta here! I have told my husband two times already that I was going to leave him if he did not straighten up. I was completely serious. Life is to short to put up with a bunch of crap. My husband is a great dad, great provider, an all around great person but he has a bad attitude at times. He does not think well of himself and he gets angry alot and yells. I have no idea why he does this, but I flat out tell him to knock it off. He started getting treatment for ADD and it has helped alot but he still has no patience and at times is down right nasty. He doesn't even know he does it. I have to put him in his place. Then he is fine. He never curses at me, has never called me names and has never touched me in a bad way. I would say were we are lacking is in the bedroom, mostly because we were so fat. There is no passion when you are trying to find a way to even be together because you are so big. It is terrible. He got so big that I didn't even want him touching me, why bother. Phsyically we have lost the connection. I am hoping with the weight loss it will come back. Even though I have to put him in his place, we still talk, we are friends. I feel like he is my partner. I tell him he is may partner in crime. HA! I am not sure he is my soul mate but I feel safe with him. I wish there were more men out there like him, then women would not have to live in bad relationships. I am not saying that all women are in bad relationships. I am saying that if you can't be who you are, then get out, that is just my opinion.

I would have to say that I would have a hard time with that too. I think that is a bit insensitive of the both of them. And you said it has only been one week? I admit, I have male friends but if I seperated from my husband and was out running around with a guy a week later, I bet he would be asking me questions. You had every right to ask. I think the thing I would be looking at is why did I seperate from this person in the first place. Those reasons are the same whether he is running with someone or not. That does not change the problems. The one thing that you need to remember is that you could be doing the same thing. Look at you, you are beautiful, is he stupid or what? No matter what happens, you are one hot lady. You will have no problem finding a new, even better love. But the first thing you have to do is work on you. If he wants to be stupid and jump into something new without working on his issues then so be it. He will fail in whatever relationship he has. But you on the other had, if you work on your issues, when you do meet someone else, you will be ready. I know it is hard. But remember you are the better person here, dont eat and throw a party of food. Remember that you are a wonderful, bright, beautiful woman. If you hold your head up, he is going to see what he is missing. You may even decided you dont want him anymore. Now lets go over there and slap down that girl--- ha! kidding.

That is great. My husband and I got banded together on the 19th of Sept and Dr Ortiz was a hoot. I love that guy! I am glad you had a good experience. Keep us up to date on how you are doing.

So I have finished the liquid diet and had my first meal today and it was scarry to say the least. But what is more scarry is the scale is not moving. I am definately not eating anywhere near what I did, so can someone tell me how long until the scale moves again? I am at the weight I was at surgery. I know I have lost inches but no weight. This doesnt make sense to me. Does things start to change once you start eating because now your body can use that at energy. I wonder if when you are on the liquid diet if the body goes into starvation mode and that is why I didn't lose really anything. My total weight loss from the time I starting pre-op to now is 246-230 =16 pounds. To me that is not enough. I know this is all new and today is the first day that I have eatten, so maybe I dont understand all this but I really thought that I would have lost more. My husband has lost 33 pounds. I am so jelious. He looks great. I guess I just dont understand how this works, how did you all lose so much weight, or is it going to start happening for me now?

Well we went to breakfast and I have to say it was kinda scarry. I was eating and then I got this pressure in my chest so I stopped eating. Then about 10 minutes later, I felt almost hungry again. Does that mean I was full and now I am not. I dont understand. I ate one egg, a little hashbrowns and a little link sausage. Before we ate, we had coffee. I really dont know how to read this yet. But I stopped because I got nervous and let me tell you I wanted a drink so bad. So I sucked on an ice cube. I am used to drinking with my meals. This is going to be rough. Anyway, did I do this right, is that what is does when you are full? My husband ate more than me, he made me nervous, I thought he was going to throw up for sure but he didn't. I guess he has more room than me. Maybe he stretched out his pouch, I dont know if that is a good idea. I guess I really dont know what I am doing yet. Any ideas?

Thanks, we are planning our meal now. I can't wait. We will be taking it very slow.

Wow, what an incredible ride this has been. It has been pretty rough but hubby and I made it. We can finally have food. We are going to take it very slow. I think I may start with some soup with chunks in it. Real nervous about eating too much. I hope I will know when I am full. Hubby is pretty happy with his results so far. I think we may even get reimbursed from our medical account. It is only 2800 but I will take it, trust me, we need it. I hope we keep losing. I found out our fills will be 375.oo each under flouro so that is alot for both of us. I will have to use any money we get back for that. I got my pants on today without laying down so I know that I have lost weight. People say they can see it in my face. So I put some shots on here of my face. I think so, I think it will look better after another 10 more pounds. I look forward to more success. what a ride this has been so far. Thank goodness for this site. I dont think I would have made it. Thanks everyone.

Good Luck, let us know how you are doing. It should go well, they do excellent work over there. I wish I was in TJ right now, the weather here is cold. brrrrr.

Oh I thought you already had it done for some reason. Ok keep us up to date. We worry about you. They better take good care of you!!

Has anyone heard how the surgery went. I think he was having an uplift. Has anyone heard how he is doing? I am curious to see how he is doing with recovery and how the clinic was and how they treated him. That would be a tough once to go through. Just wanted to see if anyone has heard anything.

I got it, they turned out kinda big. I will work on that. But I like the end result. Thanks everyone for your help.

I'll keep playing with it, I'll figure it out. Thanks

Thanks I tried the picasa one but it does look like it will let me save. Not sure what the deal is with that one.

I guess what I would ask you is, arent these people on social security? There are agencies that take care of people like this. Why do you feel like it has to be you? If it is making you sick, there is a limit to everything. I would have a very hard time even considering taking care of people who dod that to me. I would be checking into agencies who can help them and get the heck out of there. But that is just me.

For some of us, like me I wont be able to go out dancing with you. So lunch worked better for me. My sisters place is open later but are you guys talking about changing places, cause I need to let her know. She is planning on bringing in another cook just for us. It's ok if you want to change, I just need to let her know in advance.

There is a cycle that bad relationships go through. Like with a guy who is awful to you, then he is nice to you, then awful again. They call it the cycle of abuse. Well I am in that at work. This woman. I try to be her friend. It will go for about a month where things are good and then she will turn on me and she is really mean. It seems like she is having a problem with me because I am feeling so good right now. I think her life is a mess, I have no idea. But it hurts me everytime. I dont know how to get out of this. If it was a guy I would be out of it easy cause I would just dump him. But you can't do that with people you work with. You have to see them everyday. You have to be professional. I guess I could quit being her friend. But then somehow she worms her way back in, just to hurt me again. This time I put my foot down and tried to defend myself, it was terrible. She made me cry. Then she made snotty remarks about how no one appreciates her. I was like give me a break, I should have said out loud "wasnt enough I bought you a purse in mexico" she didnt get me nothing for my birthday. I just want it to end. It made me want to come home and eat. I have 4 days left on liquids, there is no way she is going to mess me up. I just dont know what to do. How do I feel good about myself when this keeps happening to me. If I didnt have to work with her it would be easier but unfortunately I do. what a mess.

Dont stay at UNICORN- Drug alley- trust me, you dont want to stay there!!

I am going to pray for you, I would hate to think that it caused a problem. I had some soup that was kinda thick the other day and that had me worried. I am going to do my first fill under flouro just to make sure. I guess we all worry.

They do Karoke at the bar next to her restraurant. Ok who here is going to sing? HA! I dare ya. I am not sure they do it Saturday nights but I hear it is a real hoot. I'll check around for dancing. Most the dancing places are spread out. I will check around. What type of music.. Are you guys liking that cowboy stuff HA HA HA HA!!