I met Julie T (1.5 years banded) at my last fill, and she really helped me with this. With the idea that you should eat just enough to not be hungry, not to be full. She had several meals with me, asking how I was doing through the meals. She also had me separate my foods into separate portions on a salad plate, which I had to ask for. (I know the waiters thought I was weird.) I put a small portion on each 4th of the plate, and would eat that (or what I could of that.) After I finished the small portion, she would ask me how I felt. I told her many times that I didn't know, so she told me to get up, walk around a bit, and come back and see if I was still hungry. Several times I could eat a tiny bit more, but most of the time I just didn't feel hungry anymore and stopped. It is different than feeling full... it is just that I wasn't hungry anymore.
It has worked for me since I left TJ on Thursday. Thanks, Julie T for the good company and helpful advice. You made my trip to TJ so pleasurable.