I talked to her, and the insurance is the problem. She can get the vgb surgery for her 250 deductable. I would stop and think about that, too, but I have researched everything and would still choose the lapband for me. Her fills would be the other problem. She switched jobs so she could get insurance for the surgery, and as a new employee, taking time to get the fills would be uncomfortable for her. (I told her that fills would be separated by a reasonable amount of time, but she was still uncomfortable with it.
I do understand her feelings there, as when my husband had prostate cancer, he had to go in late every time he had radiation, and get off early when he had his assorted doctors' appointment.
Still, I think the decision is unfortunate, but I will just be as supportive as I have been and be happy that she can afford ANY type weight loss surgery.
Thank you all for your suggestions... I tried them all