I'm super happily married ... so not out there looking, but if it was me ....I would try to arrange something that is not about FOOD etc.
Sometimes, when I'm out for dinner, I tend to make a too big of a bite or eating to fast with not chewing enough --->> means after the second bite I have to take a break to see if I have to excuse myself :lb12:
Having the surgery is one thing, sharing it with someone you don't really know that well is a different one, so I would probably not tell my date until I think it get's more serious
Have fun