I've been pondering that or telling them right before I go so I don't have to hear about it much! My closest friends live in other towns so I could get away with that, but there are a few that live in town and that I see a lot, so I don't think I could get away without telling them - especially when I go on pre-op. But i'm only telling very few people. Once I start losing I won't lie about it, but I also didn't want to tell a lot of people and make a big deal about it. And family is definitely not finding out until after. My family is prone to get into each others business and be gossipy, so they will not find out until absolutely necessary!