okay, if you're not ready to read tmi and feel sorry for a woman who is so desperate for advice that she's asking an online forum....then move on!
I thought you ladies would understand because probably you all have always struggled with your weight the same way I have...so when someone you love does something like this, you have to know how bad I'm hurt!
okay, here goes, my husband and I have been together almost 4 years (married 2 in Jan, 16 month old son?). Anyway, here's the tmi part...we hardly ever have sex - like the last time was probably 2+ months ago...I want it - he doesn't... Anyway, when my husband and Imet, I was pretty thin and cute but when I had my son I ballooned and have had the hardest time getting it off - hence the band...which he doesn't undertand but whatever... just eat right and go to the gym is what he says.
Anyway, we've had this discussion before, but we had it again tonight and he basically said he's not attracted to me and if we didn't have kids he doesn't see himself married to me... wow... i know.
So, I'm not sure how I feel about it... one part of me wants to tellhim to f-off and move on with my life and my son and go be happy somewhere else...and when I DO lose the weight rub it in his face...
But another part of me gets it...I don't look the same... but he is not supportive of me losing...he doesn't do anything to help me or doesn't give me kind words to motivate me...nothing...he just comes home from work and sits on the couch...
Anyway, I guess I'm half venting and half asking for some advice... my husband knows how much the topic hurts me...he knows that i've struggled my entire life... can he really be that shallow? men, maybe you could help me out too...
Thanks for listening!