stormy Posted August 9, 2008 Report Share Posted August 9, 2008 I signed up here in Dec of last year. It took me until this last month to make up my mind about whether I wanted to do this. So many things on here made me take a look at my life. Tired of shopping and looking for another outfit again in size 20 and seeing all the people who are healthy and then to hear my dr tell me that I am at risk because of being fat. I had to make a decision. Everyday I came on here, reading how people are doing, understanding that things are a struggle. Now knowing this will not be easy, has made me understand that this is not a quick fix but a way of life. All of that said, I am saddened to see the site turn negative. In my opinion as someone who is not banded yet and who is scarred of what I will become. I want it all to stop. I need you guys. I know that I am not perfect, I may cheat, I may do things wrong. But I also know that this is about living, not dieing. I dont want to die. My son needs me and I need others like you to help me. I dont think I can do this alone. Please, whatever happened. Stop. How can I make you understand. We need eachother. So someone cheated, so what. If they want to wreck their band and be stupid, then that is their choice. I pray I dont do that, but like I said I am not perfect. I go for surgery on the 19th of Sept. I am scarred about the financing, the surgery. But what scarres me more than anything is to think that people like you, who I have seen grow and support eachother, wont be here to help me. If I dont do this, and do it right. I dont know what I am going to do. Please. I can't say enough, new people like me. We need you guys. Please stop whatever happened, forget it. Can't we start over? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim2BSlim Posted August 9, 2008 Report Share Posted August 9, 2008 What is really sad is this keeps happening about once a month and all the new people are getting ran off. Not good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will T Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 I suggest you click on the link in the upper right hand of this page that says "My Controls", then go down to the lower left to "Manage ignored users" and include anyone you feel has been negative and rude in posts. The words they type will NOT APPEAR for you. It worked wonders for me!! We are all in it together, and once the sourness is gone, the rest of us will escort each other on this journey. Remember... go to your profile page and block anyone you feel isn't helping you. There are TOO MANY AWESOME posters in here to allow people you feel are hurting your efforts to drag you down. Bill Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest CaraMBA09 Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 Am I missing something?? I have not seen a negative posting yet...or been the recipiant of one. (fortunately) hate to break out a can of whoop ass on anyone negative! ~C we are doing this for our health, for ourselves and secondly for our children! Don't ever let anyone make you feel differently! We are down there nearly at the same time...we are gonna ROCK! so keep your chin up and count the days kiddo! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dontondan Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 I am glad that I was too busy to check the forum for the past few days and missed out on the drama. Just hang in there, Stormy, there are plenty of wonderful caring people to give you support on this forum. No matter where you go you will have some Negativity about anything, just choose to ignore that sort of stuff and get what you need from the good guys that are one here. Every few months there gets to be some drama on here....keeps us all on our toes, I guess. Don't take things personnally and if someone bothers you just go to "my controls" and you can "manage ignored users" this is a very valuable tool. The majority of us that are on here are here for the same reason that you are and we want to support each other in the good times as well as the bad times. I am here for you and when I need it, you can be there for me. Donna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paula Bee Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 I suggest you click on the link in the upper right hand of this page that says "My Controls", then go down to the lower left to "Manage ignored users" and include anyone you feel has been negative and rude in posts. The words they type will NOT APPEAR for you. It worked wonders for me!!We are all in it together, and once the sourness is gone, the rest of us will escort each other on this journey. Remember... go to your profile page and block anyone you feel isn't helping you. There are TOO MANY AWESOME posters in here to allow people you feel are hurting your efforts to drag you down. Bill AMEN and AMEN, Bill. That works like a charm for me, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vix Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 AMEN and AMEN, Bill. That works like a charm for me, too. I also missed the drama Stormy since I haven't been on for a couple of days, but I have been involved in other forums and I know that there are always one or two people who like to stir the pot, no matter what the subject is. And, then again there are people who are just being people. God knows I am not cheery and happy every single day of my life and I imagine that in about 3 weeks after I have been banded I will come on here and be whining like a little kid saying I can't make it through the liquid phase. I know myself. I'm not a strong person. But, if someone accuses me of whining or complaining, I know I will agree with them and then politely tell them to "step the hell off!" I'm an adult and don't need someone else telling me what to do. I'm here because I want support. I know I will need it. I most likely will always need it. But, sometimes we have to be strong for others who aren't as strong as us. Some people can let that stuff roll off their backs and others can't. So, I'll let everyone know ahead of time that I'm going to be a whiney little thing in a few weeks and if you want to pick on someone, save it up for me. I can handle it. I won't leave. I just might not be as nice as some of you guys are to the pot stirrers... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will T Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 will T headsnaps.... Atta girl Vix.... you tell 'em!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stormy Posted August 10, 2008 Author Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 I can be a bit whiney too, especially if I am complete freaked out. I am currently scarred- freaking. I wonder how much I will miss food. But I wont miss the fact that I can't find anything to wear because I am so FAT! I dont really care what drama happened on here, I hope it goes away. I am not going to ignore anyone yet but I am glad that option is there. Thanks for letting me know. I think this site is great. I dont know where I would be without it. One question, should I start with the slimfast, or did other people find a better drink to use for pre-op diet? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dontondan Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 You gals go ahead and whine all you want! I will still be here to listen and encourage whoever needs it whenever it is needed! Donna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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