cckcsharp Posted November 23, 2008 Report Share Posted November 23, 2008 Hi everyone, I have been MIA for some time now. I posted a while back about the issues I was having with my mom and step dad aging and illness. Well, to make it short, they both got worse, my mom went into a nursing home for rehab/physical therapy and only a week later I found my step dad at the local IHOP having a stoke or seizure. I rushed him to the E.R. and he died 5 days later. I had to take care of their home, sell it and deal with all their property and assist with my step dad's funeral arrangments. Then my mom became very sick, and I had to remove her from the nursing home because they were refusing to get her medical attention (anther story) and I took her straight from the nursing home to the E.R. where she was admitted to ICU with acute kidney failure. One week later, she is still in the hospital and things are not going well. I am not sure how much longer my mom will live and it is a very difficult emotional roller coaster ride. She is only 61 years old. It has been extremely difficult because this drama all started only 2 weeks after I got my band. I have not had the time or energy to focus on me and take of my health needs or make sure I am making good food choices. I managed to get one fill so far and was planning another one about this time, but I think the stress has been so great that I don't need one. My band feels pretty tight. I am eating very little. I have managed to lose another 5 pounds since my fill 5 weeks ago. So I guess I cannot complain too much. But I know that I would have lost more if I had the time to eat healthier and exercise. I am on the go so much and dealing with so much, that I choose things like liquid calories so I can eat quick without issues of getting things stuck or Pbing. I want so much to take care of me, but cannot bring myself to abandon my mom in her time of need. I am just waiting for that light at the end of the tunnel to arrive and taking things day by day. I have missed the support and love of this group and I am glad to have a few free moments to post. I hope that all is going well with all of you. Thanks Cathy for checking in on me. I did get your messages and appreciated them soooooo much during this very difficult time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnm75 Posted November 23, 2008 Report Share Posted November 23, 2008 Jessica, I'm so sorry to hear about your stepdad and your mom. I'm sure it must be difficult! What part of UT are you in? I'm heading to the SLC area this week... let me know if there is anything that I can do for you. Hugs, Kristy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CottonwoodAZ Posted November 23, 2008 Report Share Posted November 23, 2008 Hello Jessica! So good to hear from you! Well you must be doing something right 40 lbs! Yeah! I am sorry to hear how stressful it all has been. I think of you and Vix often. You were on all the time when I decided to get the band and I wacthed you both closely. Know we are still here for you and will be praying for you in these tough times. We will all celebrate the day when you can take care of you. Just know you are doing well in your weight loss journey. Keep us posted on your needs or just pop in for support! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ackovach Posted November 24, 2008 Report Share Posted November 24, 2008 Hi Jessica, I am so sorry about your mom & step dad. From experience, I know how draining this can. Emotions can zap all of your energy. Years after going through a lot of stuff, I realized that I had been severely depressed during my moms illness and death. At the time, I thought I needed to feel the things I was feeling. Years later it snowballed into some real issues for me. I ended upon needing depressions medications. In hindsight, I could have saved my loved ones at lot of drama if I had dealt with the depression early on. I am off the depressions meds now and losing the weight that I gained during this time. But I wish I had taken care of myself during that time by doing yoga, depression meds, talking to someone, anything other than the anger I had. All I am trying to say, is don't forget to take care of yourself too. I know it seems impossible right now. Death & illness can take a physical toll on the loved ones & care givers. Try to find something positive to do every day. They say exercise is the best medicine for the mind & body. You are in my prayers, Amy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cckcsharp Posted November 26, 2008 Author Report Share Posted November 26, 2008 Thanks so much. Your kind words really help during difficult times. I really think I am going to take your advice and do my best to take care of me too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nothereanymore Posted November 27, 2008 Report Share Posted November 27, 2008 Jessica, I'm so glad you're back, we missed you and I'm thrilled you're taking their advice. You're a very sweet special person and you deserve some "me" time. Its owed to you. Take care and have a great Holiday! Lisa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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